Self-actualization is a term that has been used in various psychology theories, often in slightly different ways. The term was originally introduced by the organismic theorist Kurt Goldstein for the motive to realize all of one's potentialities.
As they say, sometimes we have to be at our worst to know who we really are..we are not actually like that. Time will come when the person you least expect will hurt you. Things may not work out as it used to be. You may feel aloof and abandoned yet don't forget who you are, who you want to be and...